Divorce is considered one of the most stressful situations a person can find themselves in. It is no doubt a life changing event which no one should underestimate or go through alone.
There are mixed and complicated emotions involved in the breakdown of any relationship. You’ll probably feel heart-broken, sad, angry, guilty or lonely; all these feelings are normal, and you will need more than friends and family by your side to deal with the emotional and practical aspects of the divorce.
The first thing most people would think of is finding a solicitor and getting legal advice. A solicitor can give you information on the divorce process and explain your options. As much as it is important to get specialised legal advice during the divorce process, we suggest getting help and guidance from the following professionals:
1- Counsellor / Therapist
Divorce involves a grieving process similar to that of losing a loved one and a grieving person needs time to heal and process the emotional trauma. A counsellor can create a safe, non-judgmental space that allows you to talk about your emotions and help you to deal with the challenging circumstances in a healthy way.
2- Family Therapist / Parenting Expert
It is important to get an expert’s opinion especially where children are involved. Also, new parenting arrangements could require different parenting skills depending on the childcare arrangements.
In the same way as the divorcing couple need help, the children would need help and support adapting to their new circumstances.
3- Divorce Coach
It is very important to be able to move on after a divorce, and for some, that may mean starting over again. You may have to consider your career options if you were a stay at home parent, or you may want to relocate after the divorce. Divorce coaching would help you to consider all your options and help you to move on with your new life.
If you can agree the terms of your divorce with your ex-partner, you may not need a solicitor. Besides, legal costs can be considerable and court proceedings are lengthy. A mediator would facilitate the negotiations between the couple and would not take sides. Mediation is quicker, cheaper and less stressful than going to court.
4- Financial Advisor
The financial impact of a divorce should not be underestimated. It is important to get professional advice to be able to make informed decisions in the process. There are many financial aspects to consider; from dealing with the family home to your retirement plans. Perhaps, finances were not your thing when you were married, and you now feel lost. Getting professional advice on your personal finances could give you more control over your future financial security and freedom.
And remember, no matter how difficult and complicated your situation might be – there is always help out there! All you need to do is to reach out and ask!
There is life after divorce! This time, do it on your own terms.